Pondering positives vs negatives......

        While watching one of my favourite tv shows recently, I was intrigued by a theory that was put forward, the parts of our life are like juggling balls, we always have one in the air, in other words not all parts of our life can be perfect at once. So is it better to have two out of three parts of our lives going only fine while we work at a third, or can we have it all. When do our hopes and dreams become unrealistic expectations, can settling for close enough be wrong? Can we ever achieve perfection within our relationships or is perfection contrary to human nature?

      It's part of our makeup to want to improve ourselves and those around, we want to be the best we can be in ourselves and in our relationships, our friendships. I also think that we need to recognise that being human means we are imperfect, we are all different, we all have some flaws. It's our flaws that make us unique individuals, we may be attracted to others who are very similar to us or total opposites, often it's the flaws that are the attraction. 

      But what happens when those flaws are no longer cute, when they annoy us, is that our fault or the other persons? Are we focusing on the small faults to avoid looking at the bigger picture or are we using them as an excuse for why things no longer work as they once did. When the negatives start to outweigh the positives is it time to walk away? Should a working enjoyable relationship have a positive to negative balance? 

        I was told the other day that negatives and positives have different values, so a single negative will need more than a single positive to balance it. We need to hear or experience more positives in our lives to keep the negative at bay. It's amazing how that one negative comment can drag us down even in a sea of positive, so when it comes to those you love remember that compliments, positive experiences and little acts of love go a long way, before you present a negative, think for a second if it is worth the pain it can cause. Will being negative help you feel better in the moment, whereas letting that negative to will help you feel much better in the bigger picture of your life!!